It's Love vs Indian Parent's Version of Being Married 

- Frustrations of an Indian girl who still has some last traces of self-respect hanging around !!

He makes a hundred grand !! He has a Greencard !! His family thinks he is amazing !! He says he'll marry you even without seeing you !! So what if he is boring - you ll get used to it !!! 

Seriously, what has suddenly come upon the society ? The one's who are yet to marry talk about it just like the parents do,and the ones who got past the custom, tell you to "compromise" and live happily  - what an oxyMORON !!! 

Does one have to necessarily add to the business of matrimony in order to prove their life has value at all ?

No matter who you are, what your accomplishments are, where you are, what you are capable of, who your friends are, your character, your personality - you get a value only based on the man you join hands with. And the prerequisite to this non-existent super inflated image of the ideal man is as nauseating as the idea of living with him. 

All this haste and pressure (peer and parent) just makes the beautiful idea of meeting someone, falling in love, and wanting to get married as repulsive as diarrhea.

Age limit - gosh i have no idea where this came into the society!! So if I am single and 40, does that make me an outcast, a defective product or a creature incapable of living a happy life? I am a human being, not a driving test to set predetermined rules on my personal liking and thought process. 

First comes getting married, next comes having a baby - I know as animals we are made to procreate, but as a society there are things other than adding to the enormous world population. 

Again, am not against marriage or family - it is one beautiful concept, getting to spend your life with an amazing partner, bringing up a family and having more purpose added to life. But I am not doing it just because I need to prove the society of my fertile reproductive system !!! 

Now, the concept of arranged marriage - a guy sees a girl, the guy's family see the girl, the girl's family see the guy, the girl's family also see the girl from the guy's family's perspective - and no matter if the girl dislikes the guy or the the guy dislikes the girl or the guy's family dislikes the girl, the girl becomes an object of scrutiny. And they all start thinking there is something really wrong with her to not be living with this prince, who for all you know has one less brain in his head !! 

I know the society talks of being advanced, westernized, cultured, but the bride's  family needs to make an investment in gold, diamonds and may be even a palace - cause obviously that is our culture, to pay through your nose for a guy and his expensive penis. 

"You don't have to love him now, get married and eventually you'll get so used to each other that you'll think you are in love" - what a nonsensical reason to hastily get into a contract that has no exchange policy!!

I strongly doubt any of these so called "well-wishers" are going to stick around when reality hits.

This complicated idea of taking a no turning back, expensive, completely illogical and highly repugnant long term agreement, with a person you barely know, just to get out of the society's gossip book is something one cannot dream of of going through - but what do I know, Indian parents have a hold in your right brain, where all logic is nullified.